SOTM 17: Sex
27"You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.'[a] 28But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.
Mt. 5:27-30.
I have a non-Christian friend who really likes church. He likes the people, he likes the music, he likes the messages. He might even say he NEEDS church. The problem is that it seems to him like God doesn't want him to have any fun. He likes the freedom to get hammered, do this, do that, and sleep with whomever. And his objection seems quite reasonable. Not only does Jesus not want us sleeping around, he doesn't even want us looking around! Many couples, though recognizing the negative impact sleeping around would have on their marriage, see little wrong with a look here, a look there, maybe even a video or a magazine. "Boys will be boys," says a friend of mine whose husband likes pornography.
But consider this for a moment. What if it's totally the opposite? What if rather than trying to stop you from having fun God wants you to have the most fun having sex you could possibly imagine? Read Song of Solomon. There are some passages that I'd literally feel embarrassed to quote in this blog. That's right--I'm censoring the Bible. It might be too much for your virgin ears. God created sex. And so he knows how you can get the most out of it. And here's how: sex is inextricably connected with commitment. In fact, the whole ordeal-- making out, cuddling, etc. will never be as much fun as it's supposed to be if it's just about having fun. It's all about commitment. This is why the question "How far is too far?" is not the right question. The question is "are you committed?" I don't mean sort of committed. I mean--COMMITTED. If there is any question in your mind that this might not be forever--it won't be nearly as much fun as it could be--and is supposed to be. This is why even looking lustfully at a woman to whom you are not committed is unhealthy. God doesn't want you to settle for a lesser fun than you are supposed to have.
So don't tell me God doesn't want you to have fun. If you're married, break out Song of Solomon and have some fun. Put down your Cosmo article and take a sex tip from the one who invented it: Sex + Commitment = FUN!!!
Mt. 5:27-30.
I have a non-Christian friend who really likes church. He likes the people, he likes the music, he likes the messages. He might even say he NEEDS church. The problem is that it seems to him like God doesn't want him to have any fun. He likes the freedom to get hammered, do this, do that, and sleep with whomever. And his objection seems quite reasonable. Not only does Jesus not want us sleeping around, he doesn't even want us looking around! Many couples, though recognizing the negative impact sleeping around would have on their marriage, see little wrong with a look here, a look there, maybe even a video or a magazine. "Boys will be boys," says a friend of mine whose husband likes pornography.
But consider this for a moment. What if it's totally the opposite? What if rather than trying to stop you from having fun God wants you to have the most fun having sex you could possibly imagine? Read Song of Solomon. There are some passages that I'd literally feel embarrassed to quote in this blog. That's right--I'm censoring the Bible. It might be too much for your virgin ears. God created sex. And so he knows how you can get the most out of it. And here's how: sex is inextricably connected with commitment. In fact, the whole ordeal-- making out, cuddling, etc. will never be as much fun as it's supposed to be if it's just about having fun. It's all about commitment. This is why the question "How far is too far?" is not the right question. The question is "are you committed?" I don't mean sort of committed. I mean--COMMITTED. If there is any question in your mind that this might not be forever--it won't be nearly as much fun as it could be--and is supposed to be. This is why even looking lustfully at a woman to whom you are not committed is unhealthy. God doesn't want you to settle for a lesser fun than you are supposed to have.
So don't tell me God doesn't want you to have fun. If you're married, break out Song of Solomon and have some fun. Put down your Cosmo article and take a sex tip from the one who invented it: Sex + Commitment = FUN!!!
posted by Kevin Hanly at
6:56 AM
2 Comments:
There is no easy way to ask this except to just come out and say it, I'd like to officially ask the women at church to please "cover up" when attending church. Do it for the guys who are battling with this stuff (there are many of us)... low cut tops, super short dresses, high heels, skin tight pants... Just not good attire for church and for us struggling men who are trying to behave ourselves. I've been wanting to ask this for a long time but had no place to mention it. We live in a sex saturated society and culture. Church should be a neutral place to go where we don't have to battle this. Believe me, it's everywhere else.... tv, work, school, even at the public library!
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debtfreedude, At
March 24, 2009 at 4:07 PM
I agree with "admin". I wonder if the leadership would consider a series on the benefits and "ministry" of 1Pet 3:3-5 "Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful."
In a world pre-occupied with sex and sex appeal, the Church should stand as a beacon of true, lasting, meaningful beauty.
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mrheinrich, At
March 24, 2009 at 6:49 PM
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